My hands were shaking during the whole meeting and I relied upon a ridiculous page of notes in order to ensure I completely said my piece, but I did say my piece. I said it without being aggressive or mean, and I communicated that I also cared about Young Guy's needs. For his part, Young Guy was very receptive. He hadn't realized that I was frustrated, which at least tells me that I wasn't being as aggressive and negative as I felt (this is a good thing). I felt heard and acknowledged and we figured out how to ensure that our discussions meet both of our needs in the future. Work went really well the rest of the day and I'm hoping that we're over the hump.
Whew.
Now I am off to Seattle to visit two of my very best lady friends on the planet. I am so, so ready for some female energy I might explode with joy.
In fact, I gotta run: off to pack my cutest outfits*** and hit the road.
Me, snorkeling on our honeymoon and waving you goodbye as I head off for Sea-town
*What can I say? It was St. Paddy's day and I love a good theme.
**I forgot to note in my last post that we start work at 7 am so a 8 am meeting was not a cruel tactic on my part.
***Last night I asked D: What are some of my cutest outfits? I want to bring cute clothes. D's response (in a wrangled voice): I don't know! I can't think of these things on the fly!
Congrats! I teach small group communication and it's flippin' rare to see a team member actually confront offensive others in a respectful and coherent manner. Bravo!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! It takes a lot of guts to stand up for yourself. Kudos to you for clearing the air while there was still a way to keep the conversation professional and controlled. Enjoy your trip!
ReplyDeleteWell done! Also, have fun! Female energy rocks. ;)
ReplyDeleteYay! So happy that everything worked out for you! Enjoy your cute outfits, tons of girl energy, and your weekend. You deserve it! :)
ReplyDeleteThat is so great. Well done, you. And have a great weekend.
ReplyDeleteMay I suggest more shooting guns?
ReplyDeleteNo, seriously, though, Shipping Up To Boston is one of the most kick ass songs ever. Irish and beyond. No need to defend. Although the Irish thing... totally doesn't hurt. ;)
So I am late to the party and just catching up. Wanted to say I admire you for your standing up for yourself in an adult professional way and not backing down. You are, to use a phrase my baby sister used to use, "hella smart."
ReplyDeleteHope you enjoyed the many cute outfits and awesome girl energy!!